🍂Many thanks for your useful guidance, just in time for those holiday family get-togethers — when lots of us tend to lose our cool. ☮️ The last line of your essay is my new slogan, all through the party season: “Stay warm in the fire & cool in the storm.” Love it!🎄
This is a very helpful definition of detachment. I think in many Christian faith traditions, detachment gets mixed up with the whole :feeling is bad" approach. You can't feel because it takes you off the track to perfection (spoiler- there is no such track).
Detachment was taught as the "other shoe dropping" so don't get invested in the present emotion.
It was about experiencing or not experiencing but not tied to a choice of reaction.
This is that warm winter coat, however filthy from last year, total comfort anyhow, that is needed tonite, dipping down to 25 & SNOWING. Okay, flurries, but thats a big deal here in the south…
I’m reminded of something I heard in Al-Anon a lot, AA’s sister program, when i first started going. “Everything I’ve ever let go of has claw marks on it”. Many saw it as a description of the emotional & psychological toll of detachment. And definitely oftentimes addiction & alcoholism can make detachment heavier & harder than when those aren’t involved (just my experience & opinions, not saying everyone’s).
This describes something soooo different even though it’s talking about the same thing. I feel I’ve been given a gift that’s a very practical tool in how to handle situations that I recently wrote about that i have an incredibly hard time handling, even though I’ve had a life time of practice.
For me, simple but not easy, my ego immediately shouts. Not necessarily, my mind whispers.
🍂Many thanks for your useful guidance, just in time for those holiday family get-togethers — when lots of us tend to lose our cool. ☮️ The last line of your essay is my new slogan, all through the party season: “Stay warm in the fire & cool in the storm.” Love it!🎄
This is a very helpful definition of detachment. I think in many Christian faith traditions, detachment gets mixed up with the whole :feeling is bad" approach. You can't feel because it takes you off the track to perfection (spoiler- there is no such track).
Detachment was taught as the "other shoe dropping" so don't get invested in the present emotion.
It was about experiencing or not experiencing but not tied to a choice of reaction.
Such a good reminder.
This is that warm winter coat, however filthy from last year, total comfort anyhow, that is needed tonite, dipping down to 25 & SNOWING. Okay, flurries, but thats a big deal here in the south…
I’m reminded of something I heard in Al-Anon a lot, AA’s sister program, when i first started going. “Everything I’ve ever let go of has claw marks on it”. Many saw it as a description of the emotional & psychological toll of detachment. And definitely oftentimes addiction & alcoholism can make detachment heavier & harder than when those aren’t involved (just my experience & opinions, not saying everyone’s).
This describes something soooo different even though it’s talking about the same thing. I feel I’ve been given a gift that’s a very practical tool in how to handle situations that I recently wrote about that i have an incredibly hard time handling, even though I’ve had a life time of practice.
For me, simple but not easy, my ego immediately shouts. Not necessarily, my mind whispers.
Practice the Presence 🫂👥